It is often the case that an affair will lead to a divorce or estrangement. The ruins of betrayal are not only external. We experience betrayal at a core level because we are designed for close and personal relationships. The trauma of an affair obviously lasts much longer than the experience itself. The only way to proceed is to try and build trust and honesty in order to save your marriage.
Even if your partner cheated on you, the choice whether to forgive and to trust again is yours. This will not be easy and it won't happen overnight. It is not wise to become determined not to ever trust and risk disappointment again. It is human nature to want to trust and believe in somebody, to have that special bond. By denying yourself this bond, you will do more damage to yourself.
You and your partner may be going through dark times but there is a reason why you got married in the first place. You have to confront the fact that you love this person who betrayed you. Many couples just drift apart after an affair without any attempt to save the marriage. You have build a life together over many years and it is this life and love that you need to fight for.
We all make mistakes. This does not mean that you should just forgive and forget. There is a process involved for both of you. The cheating partner will have to come to terms with what he or she has done and realize that they have hurt their spouses tremendously by participating in an affair. The cheated spouse on the other hand need to find a way to forgive and build trust in their spouses again.
The cheating partner needs to stop the affair immediately. He or she must agree that they will not see or speak to their lover again. Transparency needs to take first priority in order for any trust and honesty to enter the relationship again. There can be no secrets if you wish for this to work. The cheating spouse should be reachable at all times and should divulge any information required from them in terms of appointments or social gatherings.
You need to be strong and you need to truly belief that you can save your marriage. You will be in an emotional turmoil which is why you need to take some time to digest what has happened. Only after you have calmed down should you attempt to confront your partner and state your case. Don't ever try and fake your emotions by not showing your hurt. You need to mourn a bit and you need to show it to your partner.
There are many ways in which you can attempt to save your marriage after an affair, but it is always wise to start with the basics, trust and honesty.
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If you genuinely want to preserve your marriage, you can start today by building trust again and to learn how to forgive your partner.
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